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the best laid plans….

April 8, 2011

so, the dirty little secret at our house is that we PAY our kids for good grades. I am sure this practice is NOT endorsed by any parenting books, not by educators, and probably, not by any friends or family.  How this whole tradition started, I really can’t remember. But, really, that is irrelevant…the fact remains; we pay our kids to get good grades. In our defense, we DO NOT give our kids an allowance so we figure this is like a quarterly-type allowance for the good student!

The actual amount seems to always be under negotiation/debate. What isn’t negotiable is which subjects are actually legitimate contenders for payment: Math, Science, History/Social Studies, English & the foreign language they are studying- and that is it.  That part is very straight forward.

Why am I telling you all about this?  Adeline is on trimesters at her new school so she gets gypped one (potential) payment opportunity but she doesn’t seem to care.  Well, report cards came out this week and Adeline did very well. Dad had to pay up a whopping $30.00!

I was trying to be frugal and sensible (and still feeling yucky over the whole “pay for grades” thing), so I mentioned that Dan could offer Adeline a “shopping trip” to buy some new jeans and a spring top. Adeline recently ripped her favorite jeans and wanted me to sew them.  She is convinced these are her “LUCKY” jeans. I looked them over and there is no saving them!

Dan wanted to know how he should propose the “deal” to Adeline.  Dan, having NO CLUE where one would take a girl for jeans, mentions the GAP. While Adeline loves the GAP (don’t we all?), I am thinking….OLD NAVY because it is cheaper and for a 11-year-old girl, it is more than adequate (a favorite phrase of mine). I explained to Dan that the GAP is wonderful but we are talking about a pair of jeans for a less-than-status-conscious 11-year-old.  Go with OLD NAVY or you will be spending waaayyyy more than the $30 she earned.

Adeline came home from lacrosse and plopped down on the couch. Dan started the conversation with her by saying how he is proud of her and her wonderful report card. He then threw out this offer, ” Adeline, would like to have $30 cash or a shopping trip to buy clothes at the GAP?”

Adeline immediately jumped at the chance to SHOP at the GAP…what 11-year-old wouldn’t???  I gave Dan the “thin-lip stare” which, in our house means….cease and desist!  But there was NO putting the “cat back in the bag”.  He tried to recant his offer with the lame OLD NAVY recovery but Adeline wasn’t taking the bait!

She skips off happily talking about her awesome new outfit from the GAP and I am left staring at Dan. Honestly, our conversation had taken place no more than 5 minutes before HIS conversation with Adeline.  I am completely dumbfounded that he can not retain the name of ONE store and then use THAT name in the sentence correctly.  Fortunately, he realized his mistake quickly and had a good laugh at it!  His defense was that you can’t tell him something and then tell him not to mention it because it will then  be forefront in his brain.  Weirdly, I completely understand what he is saying.  You know when someone tells you something about another person but then casually mentions you should “forget they even mentioned it”!  Why do people do this? From then on, that is all you can think about every time you see that person. Image ruined!!   I think that is what happened with Dan….GAP=FORBIDDEN….so out it comes!

So, there is our money-saving, grade-buying, can’t-recant-the-offer deal Dan made with Adeline for her good report card.  She is thrilled and we are laughing at our “best laid plans”!

***NOTE: Adeline just read this post and said she think GAP clothes are a better quality. (she is probably right) She also says OLD NAVY smells bad…..???? I don’t think Adeline has ever read this blog before…i thought it was okay since the post was all about her.***

6 Comments leave one →
  1. Maura permalink
    April 8, 2011 18:20

    Hahaha. Tell Adeline I can’t wait to see her new outfit!

  2. Eva permalink
    April 8, 2011 23:04

    Totally sounds familiar!!!
    I’m not trying to stir up trouble but Old Navy is owned by the Adeline may be right. It may be the lower quality version of the Gap.

  3. April 9, 2011 11:40

    Eric’s parents paid him for grades, too, and he made honor roll every time (class president, high class rank and academic/basketball scholarships as well — his siblings were paid, too) so there could be something to it! Of course he wants to do it for our kids as soon as the time is right (1st and 2nd grades seem early to me). So I don’t think you’re weird at all for doing this!

    And tell Adeline she is RIGHT! Gap clothes are made a LOT better and Old Navy does smell!

  4. April 10, 2011 20:57

    “The thin lip stare”? Oh, my goodness. I can totally picture that, Megan. Wish I could have photographed it. I could photoshop in a caption “Dan, Old Navy is ‘adequate’ for an eleven-year old.”

  5. Beth permalink
    April 11, 2011 13:48

    I don’t know about the Old Navy in maine but the one here always smells like wet sneakers worn by someone with really smelly feet 🙂

    • gringosinargentina permalink*
      April 11, 2011 14:21

      so, i went in there today just to check things out. I kind of agree…messy, little bit smelly, and nothing really spoke to me. figures my daughter would be “in-the-know”. welcome to my world!

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